Post by infamousrenie on Feb 11, 2006 13:28:08 GMT -8
First off, I'm not posting this to offend anyone... I'm just asking for some advice.
Okay, so.
My husband and I are both athiest. We believe in nothing... nada, zip. We got married with a quick ceremony 2 weeks ago, before he left for basic training, and we decided to have the big wedding when he comes home. My father's side of the family (the biggest side) has no idea we're even married. We didn't tell anyone, because we were afraid if they knew we're already married, they wouldn't come to the big ceremony in July. (We got married so I could have his Army benefits.. insurance and stuff).
Therein lies my problem. Rob and I don't want to have it in a church. Simple enough, right? Wrong. The whole O'Neal side of my family are Southern Baptists.
Fuck.
We announced our "engagement" to them the day before we actually got married, and they were all thrilled, even though Rob and I had only known eachother a couple of months. Then, they started suggesting churches to have the wedding in. When I told them we weren't having it in a church, they asked why. See, I was brought up as a kid forced to go to church, so they think I believe in all that jack.
I simply tell them we just don't want to have it in a church. Another thing that I haven't told them is that I myself am Athiest. It saves me a bunch of arguement, heartbreak, and debates. I'm getting tired of having churches for the ceremony pushed in my face left and right. I'm getting ready to tell them to go fuck their stupid religion, and let me have my wedding the way I want. My problem is that I'm a huge family person, and losing all of them would totally crush me. I'm afraid if I tell them I'm athiest, they won't come to my wedding.
Some friends of mine have suggested just going through with the ceremony the way Rob and I want, and then if there is any speculation afterwards, tell the family we're athiests, so at least they were at the wedding. It sounds like a good idea... but I'm looking for any other advice anyone may have.
*Breathes out*
Okay, so.
My husband and I are both athiest. We believe in nothing... nada, zip. We got married with a quick ceremony 2 weeks ago, before he left for basic training, and we decided to have the big wedding when he comes home. My father's side of the family (the biggest side) has no idea we're even married. We didn't tell anyone, because we were afraid if they knew we're already married, they wouldn't come to the big ceremony in July. (We got married so I could have his Army benefits.. insurance and stuff).
Therein lies my problem. Rob and I don't want to have it in a church. Simple enough, right? Wrong. The whole O'Neal side of my family are Southern Baptists.
Fuck.
We announced our "engagement" to them the day before we actually got married, and they were all thrilled, even though Rob and I had only known eachother a couple of months. Then, they started suggesting churches to have the wedding in. When I told them we weren't having it in a church, they asked why. See, I was brought up as a kid forced to go to church, so they think I believe in all that jack.
I simply tell them we just don't want to have it in a church. Another thing that I haven't told them is that I myself am Athiest. It saves me a bunch of arguement, heartbreak, and debates. I'm getting tired of having churches for the ceremony pushed in my face left and right. I'm getting ready to tell them to go fuck their stupid religion, and let me have my wedding the way I want. My problem is that I'm a huge family person, and losing all of them would totally crush me. I'm afraid if I tell them I'm athiest, they won't come to my wedding.
Some friends of mine have suggested just going through with the ceremony the way Rob and I want, and then if there is any speculation afterwards, tell the family we're athiests, so at least they were at the wedding. It sounds like a good idea... but I'm looking for any other advice anyone may have.
*Breathes out*