Post by Classic on Dec 16, 2007 13:03:45 GMT -8
My parents always host the christmas party. My auntie hosts thanksgiving. For one reason or another, i haven't been to thanksgiving at my auntie's in a couple of years. So far, though, i haven't missed christmas. My bf was there too, last year, and i believe also the year before. (Hard to remember these things now.) There was never an issue with this: I brought my "friend" along, and my brother and sister brought whatever friends they wanted to bring . . .
This year he won't be welcome, due to recent events and discoveries. As my mother put it "Your father won't be too happy if that young man is there."
I love how my mother always blames shit on my father. Not that i'm exculpating my father, mind you.
There will be drama if he's there. Dirty looks, and foreign-language cursing. Heavy-spoken judgement. A lot of unpleasantry. My bf will have to face the entire lineup of my aunts and uncles (with my parents at the head) and explain "how dare he steal their little daughter away into this cohabitation foolishness?"
Because, of course, it wasn't my choice at all.
But mind, even if he's not there, there will be drama. It's just that if he is there, it may become more serious. If he is there, it will be an act of steel-balled defiance, like the time he and i went to my ex-bf's house for christmas dinner. My ex-bf was not confrontational about it, llikely for fear of his parents response (who still like me and think the boy is an idiot for letting me go), but there will be no such saving grace at my parents' house.
I haven't decided whether i really want to deal with all that. I mean, it's not like i have the best of relationships with my parents anyway, and furthermore, i've got much more pressing issues of my own to deal with this christmas, and so to add this bull shit on top of it . . .
It would be the first christmas that i didn't go to their hosted affair, though. How conspicuous.
::sigh::
This year he won't be welcome, due to recent events and discoveries. As my mother put it "Your father won't be too happy if that young man is there."
I love how my mother always blames shit on my father. Not that i'm exculpating my father, mind you.
There will be drama if he's there. Dirty looks, and foreign-language cursing. Heavy-spoken judgement. A lot of unpleasantry. My bf will have to face the entire lineup of my aunts and uncles (with my parents at the head) and explain "how dare he steal their little daughter away into this cohabitation foolishness?"
Because, of course, it wasn't my choice at all.
But mind, even if he's not there, there will be drama. It's just that if he is there, it may become more serious. If he is there, it will be an act of steel-balled defiance, like the time he and i went to my ex-bf's house for christmas dinner. My ex-bf was not confrontational about it, llikely for fear of his parents response (who still like me and think the boy is an idiot for letting me go), but there will be no such saving grace at my parents' house.
I haven't decided whether i really want to deal with all that. I mean, it's not like i have the best of relationships with my parents anyway, and furthermore, i've got much more pressing issues of my own to deal with this christmas, and so to add this bull shit on top of it . . .
It would be the first christmas that i didn't go to their hosted affair, though. How conspicuous.
::sigh::